Years ago in crisis training, I learned that one of the most painful parts of any crisis is during the decision making phase. Studies show that we will rush to make a decision, any decision, just to get out of the pain we experience in having to choose.
Because I learned this early on, it was no mystery to me as a newlywed why my chest would tighten the moment the automatic doors slid open as I stepped one foot into a grocery store. The average supermarket has over 30,000 items to choose from! Welcome, Jane, and all who enter, to your decision-making nightmare! The faster I could throw those products into my cart, the better I felt. Get this over with, and whatever I unload when I get home, well, that’s just what we have to work with. Over one hundred dollars worth of groceries and still nothing to fix for dinner… hmmm.
Hence began my ongoing aversion to grocery shopping, which continued for many years. Every time I crossed the grocery store threshold my brain instantly splintered, racing in a thousand directions, staring at 30,000 choices while simultaneously trying to do all these things …
- Fishing in the dredges of my purse for my scribbled grocery list on a battered napkin, which of course, I forgot
- Trying to visualize my cupboard at home and what items I had, or didn’t have
- Trying to think up some dinner ideas while staring at the ground beef section
- Thinking about the meal I signed up for to take to a sick church member and what I could fix for them
- Being interrupted by my kids oh-so-perfect behavior and never-ending clamor “can we get this or that?”
- Fumbling with expired coupons in my purse, worried about having enough money at the checkout line
- Comparing prices and trying to do math in head, unit prices, price per pound, generic vs. store brand…
Someone just tell me what to fix and what to buy!
If this hits a nerve and you can relate, then you have found lots of good company here at E-Mealz. More to say later from the honest journey of a mom-in-decision-making-pain, and what it’s like now on the other side.